Potty training a child can be a battle. Potty training three children was more like a war so, I guess that would make me a field tested general! In my experiences with potty training both parent and child need to be ready. You will also need to remain consistent through out the process while using tons of positive reinforcement. When my kids went I made it in to an EVENT (Think clap, dance, sing, reward). Don’t sweat the accidents, and if they have one say “oh no you went pee/poop in your pants, next time try and go on the potty.” All children are different and respond to different methods, and as a parent you’ll know what tactics yield the greatest results with your child. Your approach needs to be decided before you begin your potty training journey, then fully commit and don’t look back!
Here have been my experience so far with my 3 children…. Hudson was my easiest child to potty train. He was fully trained by 20 months!!! It could be because he was my first and I was able to give him more attention, or it could have been his determined personality. My approach was to purchase a lot of underwear in fun prints and get him excited. I showed him his underwear for a few days prior and talked about how fun they were and what they were. I then committed to staying home for 4 days. Day 1 when he woke up I put him in underwear and talked to him about how he now needed to use the potty. I didn’t purchase a small potty seat, we used seats that fit on our toilets along with a stool to climb up. I put him on the potty every 30 minutes that first day. (I started him and Everett peeing sitting down. Once they understood that I did the cheerios in the toilet and had them pee standing up and aim to hit the cereal. They loved doing this). The first day was messy with many accidents, but I was determined to win this battle . When he went to bed that night we used a pull up. The next morning we went back to underwear and sitting him on the potty every 30 minutes. Eventually by the second day something clicked and he started to understand the whole idea of peeing in the toilet. I let him feel like he was in control and let him get on and off the potty and wash his hands each time on his own. Honestly, he got it pretty quickly for 20 months. If we had somewhere to go I put him in underwear with a pull up over them so, he still felt the wetness if he had an accident.
Everett was potty trained by age 2. I used the same method I used for Hudson and after a few days of staying home and doing the undies all day he got it. The only problem he had was pooping. He seemed to be scared to poop on the potty which led to many accidents. After talking to him consistently about the potty and being diligent he realized his fears were unwarranted and we were done with diapers!!!
Winter has been the most difficult. I don’t know if it is because she is a girl, I have had less time to commit to this, or it’s her stubborn independent “I do” personality. I made the mistake of introducing the potty to her around 22 months and then giving up. I tried for a day or two and got lazy and busy and went back to diapers. I tried again at age 2 and I ended up buying her a small potty seat because she had a doll that had a similar one and I thought that might help her. She wasn’t really interested at the time. After realizing I need to give this 100 percent we took some time off the potty. It was around 2.5 that I started to put in more effort. She was waking up dry in the mornings and I knew it was time to get this done. I did the whole undies thing and getting her excited to wear them. We tried to stay home for a few days and letting her just wear undies. After 3 days she was telling me when she had to pee!!! Total win. However, life is busy with the boys schedules and we are on the go more. I have to do pull ups while out and if she has one on she will pee in it and then tell me after she goes in it that she has to go pee-pee. I try not to do pull ups for that reason. Lately while we are out she does tell me she has to go and we successfully make it to the potty on time. I am still working on the pooping on the potty with her.
I go back and forth with how much I should push her with pooping on the potty. It is my philosophy that we should just sit back and continue to educate and encourage. When the timing is right and she is ready I know she will be fine. I will update when she is 100 percent potty trained.
-Ashlee